For those movie watchers and readers out there.....
Do you read or watch a movie to escape or to find something relevant to your situation? For a couple of hours or couple of pages finding someone like you can feel very good. Books, movies and tv shows have characters that are adventurers, looking for love or trying to grow up. Those themes are universal.
If you haven't found love or the perfect career than can result in anxiety, depression and or something worse. So who are you? Are you "Nancy Drew" an inquisitive clever person who gets things done and is popular? Or are do you relate more to the array of characters in "Harry Potter"?
The professors in Harry Potter were one teens who didn't have it all together. Now as adults though they all practice magic. There is a hierarchy at Hogwarts. Have you noticed who the favorite professors are?
All of us are on the same journey to stay alive, earn money to live and have fun and to connect wiht others. Do you have difficulty connecting with others? I sure do. Compassion may start with a smile, but then a person has to open their mouth. In the age of social media and texting practically everyone sometimes avoids conversation. That is sad.
Going the extra mile of texting, calling and email are all good methods to cover your bases. It isn't being needy to be persistent. Do you wonder if you are too desperate or too withdrawn? Thinking in terms of excesses or acting exaggerated takes lots of energy. The doubt prompted by how should one behave causes lots of anxiety and depression in others, because people are meant to get along.  Yes, there is a lot of cruelty in the world. But you don't have to be everyone's best friend.
The "Harry Potter" cast of kids were a genial cohort who bonded over a common interest temporarily. Who knows it they'd be besties as adults. In the moment practice kindness and don't go looking for a bestie.
Inside we are all trying to become happier people if not better people. A smart way to become happier is to look in the mirror and say "THANK YOU FOR WHAT". Starting the day with "poor me" may not get you very far.
  I am Snape, Dumbledore and McGonogal rolled into one! I got practical advice, I've experienced disappointment and I got humor. Without the bad you can't appreciate the good as fast. Want to get further in your wellness journey, come talk to me.

I don't wear my heart on my sleeve, but I have one.
Experiences can make us afraid to try and fear rejection. I don't.
I've been in a hospital bed, i've been next to a bedside, I've had lost and I've overcome being excessively sheltered. I've also not been hired for a job.
Endurance takes savvy, courage and kindness. Callers who don't become clients call me rude. i say I am extremely clear, direct and I have expectations that I'd like to think aren't too high. The world runs on exchanging items.
Exchange money get merchandise.
Exchange a greeting, you may get one back or the person will look away.
I don't wear my hear on my sleeve, because lots of people can't handle gentleness or assertiveness.
Smiling in person is something I do a lot because I may never see the person again.

People who have been hurt fear being hurt again. I know I do. But I gotta make a living.
Repeatedly asking for answers is a good way to heal.
Insisting on gaining clarity can improve relationships. How do you do that?
1)Make an appointment for a conversation with your friend or foe
2) Check the facts you are given.
3) Ask yourself are you telling the whole truth to get the desired outcome or are you holding out because you're scared?
4) How do you want to influence the situation? Organize your thoughts by making a list. Do you want forgiveness? Do you another date? What do you need to do to get help and support?
5) Share that list in your next converastion. See #1.

There's no guarantee that you'll get your way. Going through these step will either by a confidence builder or lead to bone crushing defeat. If the latter happens it isn't completely your fault. It takes two  to make a relationship work. When the other person's gut says it wont sooner than yours does, then walk away.
Your heart will heal. Mine did.